Introduction
Down below you will learn about the life philosophy that I developed throughout my years. This will always be a work in progress and over time, I will publish new posts with different versions of this to really demonstrate my evolution as a human being. I stopped updating it as of :
to keep it as authentic as possible.
Happy Reading!
Who Am I?
I prefer to write and share my own history, mainly through online blogging and handwriting in a journal, rather than letting others (and especially my abusive parent) dictate, corrupt or conjure false narratives about it.
Growing up and even until now, I am always worried that my work is a waste of time and will never sufficiently allow me to support myself and my future family.
I never want to be subjugated to a life people hypocritically will say I chose even though deep down, they know they abused or pressured me to follow.
I consider my future children to be my best companions and friends. I visualize them every day defending themselves saying that their parents love and believe in them.
I find solace in nature and with my future children who I visualize constantly.
I like the concept of “1% better every day”, but I would rather push myself to 70-80% of my full capacity daily to work on whatever process and performance goals I set and not just settle for the minimum. What I do not like about “1% daily improvement” is that it can easily lead anyone to shrink any improvement so small it becomes inconsequential. It would be like trying to clean every mm2 of dust from every tight corner of a house.
Worldwide financial freedom is a must for me. I want to live freely anywhere and play by my rules. This is also known as financial independence no matter where I am in the world.
Even with minimal money and no cash flow, for now, I am way happier working on my side-hustles.
People treat you like a loser until you succeed, then you become a genius.
Until the previous is not achieved, I can’t waste a single minute. Self-employment makes me anxious about what I do exactly. Until I can get money coming in, I must work hard, but extremely smart and effectively. I hope I can maintain that energy and mindset and carry them over for the rest of my life and for my future kids.
Touching on the previous point, I avoid overworking on any project, idea, decision, etc. that is not worth pursuing or beyond a point of diminishing returns. For any entrepreneurial idea I want to start, I try to achieve maximal financial and life successes with minimal effort and resources. I repeat, this is only to start it, but if it works, I work hard on it. It might not work every time for any kind of idea or decision, but that is my approach for now.
I don’t know if it is completely possible to avoid hindsight bias.
I refrain from having a defeatist mindset such as telling myself a narrative like: “It is unfair to do things with the opportunities that I have, because others do not have those same opportunities.” I think it is absolutely idiotic to be thinking that and for anyone to tell that to others just, because they are jealous of what they have.
I am very long-term focused which can make me extremely anxious about underachieving. Sometimes, I have a hard time sleeping at night. I am always thinking about success, how my projects are going, how to provide the best future for my children or how to have the best life. I get worried about the thought of “Will whatever am I doing put at risk the livelihood of my eight future children?”
Because of the previous, I consider recovery in life to be essential and lifesaving. I learned to put boundaries to prevent burnout in my life. Notable examples include:
- I try my best to engage in flow state every day to live in the moment while working purposely and meaningfully never wishing to clock out or for the day to end.
- When I am done blogging or uploading videos and pictures, I (try to 😅) stop looking at my content on any of the platforms for the rest of the day.
- I dedicate no more than 30 minutes for replying to comments on any platforms every day. (even though as I am publishing this, nobody is reading my blog nor any other mediums)
- When I open my laptop, I always have specific tasks to complete and not just surf the Internet or be sidetracked by Wikipedia, ChatGPT and YouTube.
- I avoid aggressively negative, exaggerated and tabloid media news (or unnecessarily jealous or too negative people).
- I look at my website and videos analytics only once daily.
- I try to make any essential life chore ,whenever possible, enjoyable by listening to a podcast or filming it and potentially turning it into visual content that I can publicly share.
I like sports and especially martial arts and outdoor cycling. I have mental and physical meltdowns if I do not engage in physical activity. I HAVE to move.
I avoid stationary exercises, because they are not fun except for weightlifting. I prefer outdoor cycling and swimming in nature, playing a sports game and learning martial arts (shoutout to wrestling, mixed martial arts, Jiu-jitsu, submission grappling 😁). Gazing at nature, learning martial arts techniques and having fun in a group sport feels so much more rewarding than 30 minutes on a stationary bike or on a treadmill.
At some point, I would like to say the following to someone who tries to take away everything that I have worked for: “I have acquired a particular set of skills over the years that make me a nightmare for people like you.”
When it comes to martial arts, I don’t enjoy nor hit heavybags or pads. I do not enjoy either solo grappling or striking drills. I always prefer practicing/drilling ANY technique and sparring with a real partner. The only “solo” drills I do are for stretching, but never more than roughly 10 minutes.
Even while doing all of the previous, I can’t perfectly say that I stop thinking about success or the future. I am quite an anxious one!
I don’t like conforming to a job and show up at their place. It feels so constraining and such a drag.
I am a world-class contender at being the worst at landing any job. I am horrible at writing cover letters, CVs or with interviews despite going through countless career advising and actual job hiring processes. I don’t like convincing someone to hire me nor do I like going through the application process itself. If it requires more than providing a CV, a cover letter and one interview, screw it, I am not wasting my time. I want to stay active, work on myself, on my family, on my projects, on traveling and on life goals.
Hypothetically, even though I never want to be employed (aside from freelancing), I would always take a more meaningful, but lower paying job over a less meaningful, but higher paying job that is too demanding and draining. To give you an example with two jobs I previously had, I preferred way more tutoring kids and teenagers instead of working as a construction technician with spontaneous schedules left with no energy for creative stuff outside of work. I thought like that in the moment while working in these jobs and in hindsight. Of course, I would always pursue a side hustle no matter the job.
To build upon the previous, earning money feels good, but meeting cool people, acquiring meaningful life-changing experiences and transformative cool skills while doing so is INFINITELY better.
I don’t mind cold-calling or cold approaching anyone that I admire with a thank you message and return them with value if their work has helped me.
I like to wake up knowing that my life is fundamentally different and better than how it was yesterday.
We have so limited time with anyone we encounter that it is best not to leave them with bitter feelings. (whenever possible, beware of jerks out there).
Being asked “How are you?”, opens up so much in me.
A smart, ambitious and talented person can benefit unimaginably more from simply going, living or staying for extended periods of time at a geography that nurtures those traits. Pressuring them to stay somewhere with ongoing bullshit conflicts is a disservice to their fullest potential and possibly to humanity. It reflects more other people’s jealousy and envy. People who mock them for being different growing up only change their tones once they realize how “useful” they were only once they are gone. Bunch of hypocrite punks.
As I got older, I became worried of becoming numb at every feelings and even when trying to help someone with constructive criticism from being raised in a verbally abusive household,
I prefer to be intelligently dumb than stupidly smart. In other words, I prefer to become as smart as I can and inadvertently make dumb decisions rather than staying stupid and ignorant and yet stumble on good decisions. Anything in life is about odds so theoretically, you can still succeed despite having massive flaws, purposely making terrible life decisions, committing illegal stuff and not knowing anything relevant or important towards what you succeeded at. However, I prefer to maximize my odds to the best of my abilities rather than regretting a lack of dedication from my part. Even if I fail, I would prefer to look back and be glad that every day, I did something tangible to get closer to my dream rather than telling myself I should have worked on it more consistently. I don’t like gambling with success and hoping for blind luck. I don’t like not understanding what is behind any decision I make or anything I attempt. As such, I don’t want to be too naïve, but I do not want to overthink either.
I am always daydreaming and reflecting. Journaling is part of my life and I do it everything even while thinking on my own. I journal like crazy.
Indulging in any kind of life drama, madness, trash-talk or verbal spars is not a natural human behaviour. Whoever does it either secretly relies on drugs or has at least one close person to them that they put down and bully repeatedly. They get energized from having that one person they feel superior to.
You can’t train or prepare perfectly for life’s chaos. You can’t replicate adrenaline dumps.
I read stories of people who achieved similar dreams to mine and take whatever I can from their experiences.
Whatever imposter feeling you experience from being somewhere or for trying something uncomfortable, ask yourself: Has anyone less qualified, less driven, less smart, less wealthy, more disconnected in the history of mankind figured this out? With a quick Internet research, you will discover that it will always be “100% yes”. (I am not perfect at this either so bear with me 😅)
I hate debating UNLESS a final decision towards something practically worthwhile will be made at the end. Otherwise, hypothetical debates on generic stuff that turns too antagonistic are only good for practicing a language, communication eloquence or to put on a public show.
All value in life is based around scarcity
Compared to most people, I consider myself to be a slow learner and I can only focus on at most three tasks well depending on what they are, before becoming mentally overwhelmed. I was barely able to study for one class each day and I always performed horribly whenever I had two consecutive exams. I once had two exams on the same day and I failed both of them scoring 15/100 and 20/100.
I crumble a lot under pressure. I can’t seem to focus under crucial and urgent moments. Negative emotions take over my mind and my body extremely rapidly.
The saying “fake it until I make it” never worked for me. I do not believe in pretending to look confident in the eyes of everyone when I am honestly not. I am more concerned it will make me delusional.
Chasing after money is an integral part of our lives and it took over most of my thoughts while growing up, because I lacked it. I still want to be wealthy and rich wherever I am or go to in the world. However, it is not good to stay for too long in that state, because real life meaning will be lost.
Good entrepreneurial ideas can emerge when one’s back is against the wall or with big chips on shoulders, but the BEST ideas (or life decisions!) emerge from a pure place of fun, freedom, creativity, health and sanity. Provided that the entrepreneurial desire (or particular life decision) is still alive while in that state.
I strive to achieve anything and be intrinsically happy even if nobody is going to recognize the effort or the hard work that was put into it. Even if they become negatively prejudiced from seeing the bad outcome, I want to feel glad I did it. But this blog shows my work, so they will think twice beforehand, because they have nothing to show.
I believe that entrepreneurship can be taught, learned and successfully applied no matter who it is or where they come from (aside from totalitarian countries). I don’t believe someone has to be born like an entrepreneur or in an entrepreneurial family to become one and reach some level of success no matter how small. I used to trade banana chips for someone’s dried noodles in primary school, because I wanted to eat dried noodles so I consider it a success. My brother once sold (although against school rules) chewing gums in high school and would get some money back from it even though it was not a big business. He just saw how other students wanted to chew gum, but were not allowed to.
The ONLY shortcut to a successful life is winning the lottery.
I believe that hard work paired with a bit of hard thinking (but not overthinking) ALWAYS pays off and some good will come out of it no matter who it is or what path they are walking on. Again, the only exception is anyone living in a totalitarian country or in a toxic place that kills creativity.
I never believe anyone who says that any successful person appears like they did not work hard at achieving anything impressive. Nothing is achieved without conscious effort and intention coupled with hard work unless the achiever EXPLICITELY admits that their success was a fluke.
After studying science full-time for 7 years, I now despise taking exams. I don’t like studying for a test by anticipating and learning past potential questions. It is the best way to study, but I don’t feel satisfied like I learned something from the class. Even a high grade does not faze me.
I enjoy a life of constant travelling with occasional relaxation.
I have distractions, but I want them to be productive. I like being busy and my mind needs to be engaged in whatever.
If you do not follow your true convictions, you are more likely to end up somewhere with the kinds of people you dislike.
I like the following movie categories: Adventure, Action, Thriller, Mystery, Horror and Comedy. A mix of many of these are also good.
I don’t like romantic movies unless it has actors I admire.
Anything that feels like a win to me in life is because I was once a loser at it at some point.
I am a very masculine person who enjoys physical activities whenever I want. I am proud to have a desire to protect my family from any harm. It is a man’s duty to protect his wife’s dignity and not let other men persuade her into betrayal. Not letting her (or accepting her willingness to) engage in any subtle affectionate behaviours unless with her own parents or close family members. I do not believe in men having close, emotional and intimate female friends while having a girlfriend/wife unless they are blood-related and part of their families. They can be part of their circle, event leisure buddies, network, childhood or past colleagues/classmates, but the relationship bond should trump all. I don’t like when people ,deep down, want to chase after some old flame while remaining with a backup partner just for the sake of having a relationship. Especially, if they go as far as having children and then divorcing them. They are wasting the other’s time and precious life fulfillment.
Similar to the previous, I hate casual relationships and I never want to succumb to temptation nor instigate any obvious physical cues with someone else.
I would rather be perceived as being scared of girls and being told “girls don’t bite”, “be a man who is charismatic around girls” “you are not a real man cause you can’t flirt” “you do not know how to talk to girls” rather than be accused of sexual harassment or misconduct with whatever slight gesture. Girls who appear like they do not mind can, at any point in time, accuse you otherwise and will be considered as right in the eyes of society.
It is disrespectful and degrading to pursue romantically an ex of a close friend, of a sibling or of a family member. Same goes for pursuing sisters or cousins of a close friend or sisters of sisters-in-law.
I lose a LOT of respect for men who pretend to act like gentlemen or appear responsible and proactive just to win a girl over. I have cousins who are like that and I once met a classmate during university who I stopped being friends with because of that. Something I would notice they would do was talk badly about smart people behaving certain ways, but as soon as they see a pretty girl behave that way, they change their tones just when talking to her. Whatever they consider to be bad and worth mocking becomes acceptable and normal once a pretty girl does it. Girls can be guilty of this too, because they would look down and snub on men who do not flirt that way.
I lose ALL of my respect for a supervisor at a job who treats a superior respectfully and nicely while dishing anyone under their command or below them for no reason. I have been through that when I got fired from my first internship and man was she pathetic to watch.
Life is too short for a job filled with gossip, fake team harmony, backstabbing lying colleagues, colleagues trying to sabotage others, hard work signaling and workplace bullying. I have been there twice: in my first job and in my first university internship. AVOID IT LIKE THE PLAGUE!
It is true that a plan (especially for entrepreneurial ideas) is useless, but the exercise of planning is crucial. It displays maturity, clarity of vision and enough self-awareness.
You can’t always reduce any entrepreneurial idea to a singular problem to tackle specifically, because almost everything is multivariate.
I always want to be confident that even if I lose everything, I could still become successful over again no matter where I am.
I do not listen to whoever is trying to aggressively influence or order me around if they are sitting on the sidelines. I have a cousin like that and man did he feel entitled without working any harder or even providing any effort.
I am not confrontational on purpose. I do not seek to criticize nor to start any verbal fight unless it is something urgent or worth mentioning to someone I truly want to help. I don’t scold anyone on what they should do with their lives or question their decisions unless for my work, girlfriend/wife or kids. I don’t ask questions to corner someone into misbehaviour or subtle peer shame. Cousins of mine do that and I find it utterly stupid.
Recruiters, marketers or mainstream media try to promote what is hot and buzzing, but from an outsider’s perspective, you must dispel the illusion, see past the glamour and really look at anything for what it is.
Peer pressure is the worst way to convince me of something especially when screamed at, insulted personally at or coming from someone who does not even listen to what they themselves are pressuring me. The only exception is if it was playful, respectful and I deem with good intentions.
I try not to roast people on purpose, but in a group setting, I try to fit in by making collective jokes on topics that are commonly laughed at. I always apologize directly to someone if I FELT (even if the other person looked okay) like it could have been hurtful.
I deeply value marriage from religious Catholic christian and parental standpoints and I encourage anyone to consider it. I am happy for married people and I prefer that my family knows that too. Anyone I pursue, I am very serious, committed and I always picture marrying them in my mind.
I try not to watch too many tearjerkers, because they bum me out for the rest of the day. Only when I am in need of inspiration or if the movie has a good reputation.
I do not want to lose my legacy or my life events so I like taking pictures, videos and writing.
I fear becoming old with lots of health issues. I want to look back and be proud of what my body was physically capable of achieving.
What is the point of living if it is to become like everybody else?
An unusual useful academic background applied to a seemingly unrelated other useful field or occupation is a sight to behold.
If you don’t remember someone you loved out loud, they die twice.
When everything is going well, it is hard to judge how much more positive impact you bring on top of everything.
I am not sure if that counts or how to apply it to become successfully financial, but I think my unfair advantage would be that I am nicer than usual.
I noticed that most of the stuff I am doing now as an adult are things that I did as a kid (outdoor cycling, studying anything for fun, watching fun videos, etc.)
I strive to minimize envy and regret. Whatever I envy and regret, I try to achieve it as closely as possible. Feelings of regret and envy take energy and focus away from future opportunities.
I am always curious to know and experience what it would be like growing up organically in other places.
I am a very sinful human committing gluttony and imaginary lust the most.
No matter how emotionally heavy it was for you to read through these, understand that I have overwhelmingly more faith in humanity than meets the eyes. Humans are relentless, beautiful and full of fun stories.
There are much more stuff I can add, but these will do for now I guess 😁.